Survival tips

 Of course  getting out is  The ultimate goal. Sometimes, though, that isn’t feasible right now. There are plenty of reasons to stay in an abusive home, and you aren’t any weaker for doing it. If you have nowhere to go, if you’re saving up money, it’s OK to stay until it’s safe to go.  But there are ways to make life a little more bearable while you are waiting.

•  Make a list of things you want to do once you’re free. You don’t have to write it down, just recite it in your head when things are bad. Tell yourself “someday I’m going to go to school, Someday I won’t feel afraid that I’m going to pick the wrong outfit for the day, someday I’m going to date and wear lipstick and get a  bearded dragon.“ Big things, Small things, if it makes you happy to think about, put it on your list.
•  Don’t fight. When they are screaming at you, don’t scream back. Try to defuse the situation, or at least not escalated. Of course, if they have all the power in the relationship, they may not let you defuse it, but it’s OK to try, because you’re getting out of here soon and you’re going to be OK.
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